Someone Asked Premanand Ji Maharaj: Gurudev salutation at your Lotus feet for householder life how much money is essential and for which activities listen to me money is not as important as love.
Premanand Ji Maharaj says: if you want to be very happy in Modern Life then two things are essential the first is mutual love and secondly Mutual purity of the senses if you love then you will not look at anyone else whether you are a woman or a man if you're not satisfied with one partner you can have relationships with the whole world and you will not be satisfied in married life.
Money is are essential but love is and along with love you need Purity a commitment that a relationship will never be tainted then even if you don't have much you both will be happy and when you have kids whether daughters or Sons they will bring auspiciousness to bring you happiness.
Now in the situation where both are working and earning well it's one's birth days and their demands give me a gift Take Me Out buy me these things and if you say you cannot provide then fights and then what happens and what do you call it in English a divorce happens is this married life just for material happiness love did not make you happy will gold and silver make you happy will worldly things make you happy.
If we love each other then we will deal with any situation your gift is your wife that's how you should think and she should think you are her gift and then live lovingly what importance does money have money will come automatically when you live by Dharma who follows Dharma these days there's a Pastime where Satayvan was selected by savitri she was a princess and the King gave her the freedom you can select anyone in Bharat (India).
So that his daughter would select someone she likes and will be happy she saw many princes but did not like them then she saw a person who was chopping wood she was attracted to him right away and she told the minister ask him to come down she told him I want to have you as my husband he said you see my condition she said I'm not marrying the condition I'm marrying you he said I have old parents I earn a living by selling Wood from the jungle.
She just tell me who you really are my eyes don't lie and are always attracted to the truth he said yes I'm a prince and my name is Satyawan the truthful one my parents are old and cannot see when I was a child other kings occupied our kingdom forcefully we live in the jungle to protect our lives her instincts were correct and she went to her father the king when she got there then nared muni was there naradji can see the future past present the father asked if she selected someone.
She said yes and I like him very much he asked who is he and which kingdom does he rule she was a bit hesitant and said currently he does not have a kingdom his parents are old and earns living by selling wood he said what are you thinking see your level and see his then narad Ji when he asked what's his name he meditated and said he will die within one year.
The father said call it off he has no wealth and he will not live beyond one year she said I cannot you only accept someone with a glance of love once I belong to land of Bharat I Have committed to him and she told narad muni one year is a long time i' would be happy if I married to him for 1 minute this is love so the father agreed to get her married and being a king he wanted to give her a lot of gifts.
She did not accept even one thing and said I will live exactly as my husband is living so understand this is love what it means to be a committed wife what is true happiness the father said I will not oppose your your wishes I agree she went and lived in the same Hut in the jungle where he was living now narad Muni had told her the date and time when he is destined to die she just served him and his parents with a lot of love never demanded anything.
Because she knew his situation very well he was earning his living by selling wood and if she wanted something she could have gone to to her father she could have gotten him to build a palace in the jungle if she wanted time passed and only two or three days were left for him to die she stopped eating and drinking on the last day she told Satyavan I've never asked you anything.
But today I asked for one thing please take me with you he said you always stay at home in the service of my parents so why today she said today I feel like it wherever you go today I will stay with you she didn't tell him why she asked the parents for permission and they said of course why not you have never asked us for anything she left and was constantly chanting mantra.
She was chanting the name of God and was with her husband he climbed the tree to chopwood and said my head is aching she said oh Lord come down immediately she understood and told him to keep his head in her lap now she could see dharmaraj the Lord of death coming on a buffalo.
She had lived with celibacy before marriage and was truthfully devoted to her husband after marriage so she could see the lot of death who is not visible to materialize and dharmaraj with his lasso grabbed Satyavan's soul and walked away she thought if by my words action in mind if I have been purely devoted to my husband then may I be able to follow him wherever he goes.
So she was able to follow him in the sky this biography is written by vyas dev ji in Mahabharat so dharmaraj looked back as you could hear some ankle Bells. he said this is impossible you cannot come to my Planet because your body is of this planet the planet of death now besides Satyavan ask for any Boon I'm very pleased with you I'll Grant it because I can see your Purity and Devotion to your husband she said my in-laws may they regain their Kingdom as well as their eyesight he said, tatasthu so be it he started to walk again and she was following he said child I already told you but I'm very pleased ask for one more Boon she said I'm the only child may my father also have a son He Said, tatasthu so be it see how a devoted wife purifies both families.
She was still following so he said okay I'm very pleased with you asked for one last Boon you're very pure but that's it she said may I too have a son? he said, tatasthu so be it now in a hurry he didn't realize what he had granted she again followed and he said why she said you know I'm a faithful wife and I can only have a son by my husband so you will have to let my husband go he said you're blessed you were able to even trick me your Fidelity has so much power oh child be blessed and he released satyavan.
His parents got their Kingdom back father had a son and everyone was happy so what happened here did Money help no Dharma helped we're misled these days if the couple desires other things then their love will suffer see for yourself and if love is most important then wealth will come on its own you will obtain everything like the rivers go to the ocean without asking similarly all wealth and opulence comes the one who follows Dharma you may have to face difficulties.
But for a short time like we saw in this past time hey a blissful marriage is not ordinary if you follow Dharma you can win over god mother anasuya she used to reside in chitrakut she considered her husband atrii muni, like God and loved him the power of her Fidelity increased so much that narad muni went to Parvati ji, Brahmani ji the wife of Brahma and laxmiji separately and told them that no one in the three worlds has as much Fidelity as anasuya it hurt them a little bit and they said in the three worlds we are the most devoted wives.
So how can there be anyone greater he said yes but currently anasuya is the topmost like amongst devotees ambrishji is the greatest so it happens so they inspired their husbands that we have heard about her devotion now we must test it they had a little pride because after all they are goddesses themselves so Brahma Vishnu and Mahesh reached the house of anusuya this disguised Saints anusuya was there and atrii was in samadi in seclusion when a guest comes to your door you must welcome him this is the Dharma for householders she bowed down and asked them to take a seat.
He said what will you have they said we will only have milk nothing else she said I have a cow just give me some time I will bring it they said no we will drink your milk she said give me some time she went in meditation and communicated with auni like today we have cell phones they used to communicate with the mind she said oh Lord three effulgent personalities have come to your door as guests I can tell they're not ordinary beings by their effulgence and they have placed a condition that they will only have my breast milk what is your instruction.
He said go ahead two people have this right husband and children so make them your children she came took water on her hand and said if I'm completely do with my husband by my words mind and action may you become six-month-old babies then you can have my milk she made God six-month old infants.
These are not stories these are truths from the the shastras this is the power of fidelity if the husband is completely devoted to his wife and wife is completely devot to her husband then that marriage will become a means for attaining God but see today's environment the husband is doing his own thing the wife is doing her own thing their minds are not meeting then things get so bad that sometimes they even kill each other and how did they meet through love marriage a Prem vivah.
What kind of marriage is so I think that money is needed to survive but a marriage Union is to attain God how a bird flies with two Wings a husband and wife working together can make a successful marriage when the couple is so devoted then their kids whether they're Sons or daughters they'll become Patriots devotees of God and accomplish great things.
So maybe you won't earn as much but if you follow Dharma you will be peaceful even if you have you'll be very Blissful therefore I do not think that money should be given Prime importance in marriage otherwise you will see incidence where money destroys the families destroys the so-called love I don't think money is key and if you live by Dharma you will automatically get wealth like rivers flow into the ocean on their own similarly wealth follows one who is a dharmatma god creates those beneficial circumstances.
This is how I see it because if you give predominance to money then you will end up doing sinful activities it will be a waste you will not benefit I've seen in my travels in one family the husband was earning a lot he was a landlord but the wife was unfaithful she had a lover before marriage she wanted to get him a job at the house saying we have many animals to take care of and I know this person the husband was trusting and agreed to it she called him he was an old lover and they hashed a plot they poisoned the husband and he died.
The husband's father found out and he gave the property to someone else and he moved to their house the woman and her lover ended up in jail see what kind of married life is this what marriage if the husband doesn't love if the wife does not love then what is the point of wealth it was all destroyed I think a life of Dharma and mutual love is the happiness of married life.
If you don't have this then it's useless money will come on its own accord it's not very important there are many wealthy people but their heart is in anguish the husband is attracted to someone else wife attract to someone else Under One Roof but they're not one there's so many examples hundreds and thousands of examples they from money on parents what do you think.
Again Someone Asked Premanand Ji Maharaj: maharaj ji we live with business people some are over 70 and they say you should think of your future needs.
Premanand Ji Maharaj says: We feel that we have given our kid good morals and whatever we have is okay and I tell you if you live with Dharma then pious Deeds are building your future and you believe in God you believe that much yes so let me give you another example because I've seen since I was traveling since childhood.
There was one man very poor but he used to live with Dharma and with a lot of difficulty he sent his kids for the Army selection test the kid fell short in height by an inch but the father had worked very hard and religiously even boring money to feed.
The family the kid was rejected but one army officer was watching he called him over and on his shoes he stomped with his boots and slapped him twice the kid just stood still the officer asked how was it he said yes sir officer select him who did this it was God so I tell you follow Dharma you earn money for them by sinful means then the kids will give you sorrow and they themselves will get in situations which will agonize you.
Because you're attached to them so the conclusion is don't give importance to money Dharma is important God is important love is important and everything will be okay and those who follow Dharma are never defeated so if you follow Dharma maybe you will not be able to save 10,000 rupees but your son in front of your eyes will achieve.
That will give you peace so I'm saying this after a lot of thought money is not important Dharma is important your future will be auspicious because you're following Dharma see the pandavash faced difficulties in the present but at the end they were Seated on the throne and theodan and his dynasty were destroyed so follow Dharma nothing else if you give points to money it will corrupt your intelligence Maharaj Ji we say oh Lakshmi Ji first give us intellect and then give us wealth based on our intellect.
Do you know the carrier of lakmi and owl and owl if she comes with Narayan she will come on Gara by herself she comes an owl and she will make you an owl a fool yes her personal carrier an owl and owl if someone calls her then she goes on the owl the owl but if she goes with Narayana then she goes on garuda and garuda is most intelligent of knowledge and realizations an Owl is he can't see during the day can only see at night.
That means in knowledge he is in ignorance and in ignorance he is awake so one who just gets Lakshmi his intelligence is deluded therefore I think they God shelter follow Dharma and the facilities we get will benefit us and our Generations we cannot improve the children's future by just doing as we will see we all commit sins we make mistakes we don't understand their significance but we have sowed the seeds that will punish us in the future and when we follow Dharma.
The seeds we sow will benefit us in the future what is the point of having millions or billions when the family isn't happy what is the point point when there are conflicts and distress and in front of you your son respects your wife and disrespects you and does as he Wills your heart will burn that is why your future is improved by Dharma and Truth. Thank You
FAQ: Navigating Life with Dharma and Love
Q: Is money more important than love in a marriage?
Ans: According to Premanand Ji Maharaj, mutual love and purity of the senses are essential for a happy married life. While money has its significance, prioritizing love and commitment over material wealth can lead to greater happiness and fulfillment in the long run.
Q: How can mutual love and purity of the senses contribute to marital happiness?
Ans: When both partners are deeply devoted to each other and maintain purity in their relationship, they experience a profound bond that transcends material desires. This bond fosters mutual respect, understanding, and harmony, laying the foundation for lasting happiness in marriage.
Q: Can following Dharma lead to prosperity and success in life?
Ans: Yes, adhering to Dharma, or righteous conduct, can pave the way for prosperity and success. By living ethically, one accumulates positive karma and creates favorable circumstances for oneself and future generations. Dharma not only ensures material well-being but also promotes inner peace and spiritual growth.
Q: How does faith in God contribute to a fulfilling life?
Ans: Having faith in God provides solace and guidance in life's challenges. Trusting in a higher power fosters a sense of purpose, resilience, and hope, enabling individuals to navigate difficult circumstances with grace and courage.
Q: Is it necessary to prioritize financial security over moral values?
Ans: Premanand Ji Maharaj emphasizes that prioritizing moral values, such as integrity, compassion, and honesty, is paramount. While financial security is important, compromising moral principles for material gain can ultimately lead to dissatisfaction and discord in personal and familial relationships.
Q: How can one ensure a prosperous future for oneself and future generations?
Ans: By following Dharma, cultivating love and purity in relationships, and maintaining faith in God, individuals can lay the groundwork for a prosperous and fulfilling future. Prioritizing ethical conduct, nurturing meaningful connections, and fostering spiritual growth are key aspects of building a prosperous legacy.
