Someone Asked Premanand Ji Maharaj: as you have said we should protect ourselves from criticizing others and anger these are sinful I'm protecting myself somehow or other from criticizing but I get angry how can I remember you and God and control it I'm not able to control it even though every day I'm listening to you.
Pujya Shri Premanand Ji Maharaj Says: as long as you have ignorance it is is very difficult to control the vices because we see the world is true anger by itself does not have basis its foundation is desire.
For example if you want that I should behave with you in a certain way and if I don't then you'll get angry but if you don't have any Kamna desire and we just do our Kartavya duty and see God and others then we cannot get angry until we take firm shelter of the lotus feet of God and we see God in everyone.
Then we will not be able to conquer lust anger greed or attachment calm or desire is a chief culprit if desire is fulfilled then greed develops if desire is obstructed then anger develops and when anger develops then memory destroyed and as a result intelligence is destroyed and then as soon as that happens you commit sins and offenses.
If we see God in others and chant the name and even then if anger is developing then we should become quiet just clench your teeth we are burning inside but we will not say a word then anger will inspire you again and again just swear him once use harsh words you should just be still and then next time angle will come with less force and then slowly it will dissipate until you have true knowledge and true knowledge means that my tongue was cut by my own teeth.
Now who should I swear at who can I blame can you blame anybody you slip yourself and fall now who will you blame because of your carelessness you got hurt by your own hand now who you get angry with because cuz it's by yourself by your bodily part so similarly if anyone is behaving badly with us.
It is a result of my own karmas my karmas have come to punish me that is why he's swearing at me and creating trouble and at that time if you're fortunate you will feel that I'm getting purified the other person is abusing me but my sins are getting washed if I reply back with harsh words then it becomes an offense you should stay calm.
This is forgiveness the one who forgives is a greatest donor an angry person is weak a Lusty person is weak one who is desireless and forgiving is strong he has conquered anger if he have to change anybody if you want them to be favorable to us.
That cannot happen by anger only by forgiveness, forgiveness has a lot of inherent peace and power it will make you peaceful and transform the other person for example in one of the Q&a I related the character of a he used to use a small road to go to gangaji and take a bath and when he came back then someone spit on him from his house from above he just went to take the bath again because he had to service his thakur ji God this happened 100 times.
He did not say anything he did not even look up just went for his bath the next time the other person came down and offered his obeisances and said I spit on you 100 times and you did not get upset at all see how great forgiveness is I'm an offender please forgive me.
I'm evil I Spit on such a pure-hearted person eknath ji said oh brother you do not commit any mistake you were merciful to me the baths that would have taken me 100 days to complete by your mercy I did them in one day a bath of gangaji 100 times in one day he was transformed and said from today onwards I will never do this to any devote or any saint but forgiveness this is a very rare.
Thing it is in everybody's nature to get angry but to forgive is a difficult thing and only a devotee who's forgiven can attain God you can only do if you're forgiving shami means forgiving such a devote is very dear to Krishna he does not see false in anyone tries to serve everybody but without attachment and without Pride false ego.
He is equipped poison happiness and distress such a forgiving person for sure attains God pleases God whose question is it yes so forgive what can you do by getting angry you will only cause anguish to yourself and spoil relations and if you tolerate your relationship will be saved and your heart will progress in spirituality your heart will become a residance of God.
If it does not have the fire of anger in it and anger will only rise into Kamna desire we should see God in everyone and by our Dharma of Duty by our kartavia we should try and serve everybody if they trouble us or they criticize us we just tolerate it the result of that would be that we obtain the mercy of God and a person on who God showers his Mercy.
Receives a mercy from everyone therefore I think forgiving is the best course of action until then we should just go quiet and remember God and pray oh God please save me for anger even though it's very difficult. Thank You
FAQ: How to control ANGER? Anger Management Tips & How to Deal With Anger
Q: I struggle with controlling my anger despite listening to spiritual teachings regularly. How can I manage it better?
Ans: Managing anger requires deep self-awareness and spiritual practice. Understand that anger often stems from unfulfilled desires. By focusing on fulfilling your duties without attachment to specific outcomes and seeing the divine presence in everyone, you can gradually diminish the power of anger in your life.
Q: How can I stop myself from reacting angrily to others' behavior?
Ans: When faced with provocation, strive to maintain inner calmness and silence. Remind yourself that reacting in anger only fuels negativity and disrupts your peace of mind. Instead, quietly endure the situation and offer forgiveness, recognizing that hardships can serve as opportunities for spiritual growth.
Q: Is forgiveness truly effective in transforming relationships and fostering inner peace?
Ans: Forgiveness holds immense transformative power. By choosing to forgive, you release yourself from the burden of resentment and open the door to healing and reconciliation. Even in the face of repeated offenses, maintaining a forgiving attitude can lead to profound personal growth and positive changes in others.
Q: How can I cultivate forgiveness in challenging situations?
Ans: Cultivating forgiveness requires conscious effort and spiritual alignment. See adversities as opportunities for purification and spiritual advancement. Practice forgiveness not only for others but also for your own spiritual well-being, knowing that it brings inner peace and draws you closer to divine grace.
Q: How can forgiveness lead to spiritual elevation?
Ans: Forgiveness is a manifestation of spiritual strength and divine grace. By embracing forgiveness, you transcend the cycle of anger and resentment, elevating your consciousness to a higher spiritual plane. Through forgiveness, you align yourself with the divine qualities of love, compassion, and mercy, ultimately drawing closer to the divine presence within and around you.
